Jack's Little Mei Mei

Sunday, January 21, 2007

Day 1 and 2 with Lily

What a day yesterday was! The receiving of the babies was pure chaos. We left the hotel at 3:00 and had a 10 minute drive to the Civil Affairs Office. When we arrived there were all these little vans that our guide told us were from the various orphanages that had babies being adopted today. 103 babies total. Our agency had 8. Our hotel is filled with families adopting babies.

Anyway, as we were going in, a van of babies was being unloaded. They were all wearing the same outifits and each one had a "nanny". They weren't our groups, but they were so cute. The butterflies really set in and I felt like was going to get sick! We went up the elevator to the 26th floor and when the doors opened all you could hear was crying and cooing. We walked into the room and 6 babies were dressed in pink puffy outfits. Mr. Lu, the Nanfeng Orphanage Director was standing there so I knew the babies were for our group. I couldn't pick out Lily, but Tim spotted her right away. She was the only one whose hat didn't cover her ears. Her ears were sticking out like a little elf's. We waited for them to call her name. We showed them our passports and the nanny holding Lily was smiling at us and telling Lily, "Mama, Dada". She was pointing to us.

Lily looked scared and on the verge of tears. The director told our guide that Lily had gotten car sick on the way up but was fine now. Poor baby. She has probably never traveled so far.

Slowly, after a little time, she handed Lily to me and she immediately started crying. I just talked to her a little and bounced her. Jack made some funny noises to her face and she laughed! When she cries or laughs she gets 2 little dimples below her mouth. I have never seen dimples below the mouth but my little Lily has them. We took pictures, handed some gifts to the director and the nannies and then we left. The next group had to come in. They told us that the first night we are only her guardians and we have this night to decide if we want to keep her. (Like there was any question!)

We boarded the bus first and sat there for 15 minutes by ourselves not knowing what happened to the rest of the group. Lily was screaming at that point! Jack said, "Hey, let's give her some Cherrios". We did and she loved them. She didn't cry the rest of the time. Finally the rest of the group showed up. They were waiting in the Lobby waiting for Cindy our guide to finish up some business with Mr. Lu. ( I wish I could have recorded his voice-very very deep and he is so serious. He never smiled the whole time, but you could tell he is very loving in his own way and really wants us to send photos of Lily in the furture.-He is in the picture above-not smiling!)

When we got to the hotel we took off Lily's clothes-layer after layer. For those of not familiar with China, the Chinese dress their children like puff balls. Most houses don't have central heating so it is necessary. They don't believe in children being cold-ever. In fact, we have been dying from heat while inside. The hotels, which have central heat, just BLAST the air. So we are freezing when outside and burning up when inside. Lily had 5 layers on. When we finally got down to HER she was so tiny! Her feet and legs are the size of Jack when he was about 4 months old. She has 6 teeth, not 4 and a Mongolian spot on her back. She also had a pronounced inoculation mark on her arm. Cindy said all Chinese people have those. They use a different method for the shots. She needed a bath, but I didn't want to tramatize her too much so we waited until today and she did scream! We put her in her pajamas and gave her a Chinese bottle- rice cereal, milk formula with sugar. We want to keep her on the same thing she has been eating while in China so as not to disrupt her digestive system. We will discontinue the sugar when we get home. She did have a slight fever and was tugging on her ears a bit. We gave her some tylenol and she seemed much better. She slept all night without much of a whimper. I kept waking up to look at her and make sure she was really there. I thought I might be dreaming. But it is real. I finally have my baby girl.

Cindy came by our room to check on us and she told us the Chinese character for "perfect" is a female symbol meshed with a male symbol. She said our family is now perfect with a boy and a girl. I have to agree although it was great before Lily too!

Today we all woke up at 6:00 and Lily cried in her crib until I picked her up. I forgot to mention that yesterday whenever she saw Tim she would scream. He basically couldn't even hold her. We think she wasn't around men much while in Foster care. This morning Tim was able to give her her rice/formula/sugar bottle. So that was an improvement!

She did laugh more this morning and Jack just cracks her up. At breakfast she wanted nothing to do with the highchair. I had to hold her. That was hard to manage.

We then boarded the bus again and went back to the civil affairs office to sign the paperwork and make her ours. We had to swear to care for Lily and never mistreat her or abandon her. They asked us what we wanted for her future. I said to grow up in a loving family where she can grow up to be a smart happy woman who contributes to society. We promised to give her a good education.

Mr. Lu then put a necklace on her which is a Chinese dragon that wards off evil. He also gave Lily a porcelin vase that was made in Jianxi Provence. In the box was a photo of Lily with her foster mother. It is priceless. I am so thankful to that woman for giving Lily a good start. She has obviously been loved and well cared for. Yesterday Mr. Lu gave us the camera that I sent back and our family album. The camera has 6 pictures left so there were some photos taken. I can't wait to develop those!

Lily is so sweet and very smart. She is very alert and is always looking around. You can tell from her eyes that she is trying to figure things out. She imitates noises and actions. Today we were playing with stacking cups and Jack would hit 2 together and then Lily would copy him. Jack then put one cup over his mouth and made a noise. Lily did the same. She loves looking at her hands. When she falls asleep she sucks three fingers. So cute! She will not let me put her down for a second without crying. I think this may last for sometime. It is hard to get ready. Tim has been awesome and is staying on top of being organized and making sure we have all the documents ready and money needed.

She did have a poop today which is very good. Some adopted babies can get very constipated at first.

We are off to meet our group in the hotel play room for pizza. I wonder if it will be any good. lily is asleep in my Baby Hawk mai tai carrier- right on my chest. This has been the best investment!

We are just having a blast. This is truly an experience of a lifetime.

Thanks for reading and for your heartfelt comments! We love hearing from everyone.

Also, Christine Swilhart-if you are reading this, thanks so much for the red Hanna Anderson snuggle suit. As you can see from the photos it is coming in quite handy!


  • What a great re-cap of your first day with Lily. Your family is very sweet!

    By Blogger Jeff and Valerie, at 5:26 AM  

  • Once again, I can't stay away from your blog. Emma and I are looking at it now, and we have decided that she is really cute. Welcome Lily into our family with open hearts. Emma is really glad to have a new baby cousin, she now has four boy cousins and three girls! Emma thinks that pink is her color as she looks very cute in her little pink suit. Emma is home today as she has a cold. We are all anxious to meet her. Love Grammie and Emma

    By Blogger Grammie, at 7:38 AM  

  • Lisa,

    I really look forward to reading your entries. You are such a great writer, you make us feel like we're there.

    It sounds like baby Lily is warming up to her new family quickly. What a little cutie Jack has been giving her Cheerios and making her laugh. You both must be so proud. Also, what a great sign that she's already falling asleep on your chest! She must know how lucky she is too.

    Once again, the pictures are great. She's a beauty!

    Mary :)

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8:46 AM  

  • ogoDear Lily,
    I used to scream when I saw Tim too. Don't worry, he is mostly harmless. I am your Aunt Tracy. When you come to see me I will let you and Jack ride our pony. Jack is already a good rider.

    Come soon!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 11:51 AM  

  • Wow. What an emotional, crazy, surreal and exciting couple of days for you all. We have been anxiouxly anticipating each new update. I have to agree with Grammie and Emma, Lily is pretty in pink although she looks great in red as well!

    I think Owen has developed a little crush on her. When I show him Lily's photos, he gets a huge smile on his face and says "More, more, more". Today he pointed to my computer (which was off) and said "More baby."

    Jack it sounds like you will be a great big brother. It's great that you can make her laugh. There's nothing better than the sound of a baby laughing!
    Happy bonding.
    Love, Monica, Eric, Bridget & Owen

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:12 PM  

  • We are so excited to have a little girl in our family. Lily is so beautiful, and Jack, what a great big brother you are. We can't wait to meet Lily in person. What a great keepsake this blog will be for Lily! Keep posting!
    Sandi, Pete and boys

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 7:26 PM  

  • Congratulations! Lily is beautiful and she is so lucky to be a part of your family. I can't wait to meet her. Jack sounds like he is having such a great time with her... such a blessing! We've been talking about your blog everyday at school. Whoever read the latest shares it with the group. We miss you, but are so glad to be able to read about your experience! Enjoy the rest of your time in China and I can't wait to meet Lily.

    Megan Gerdts

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 7:43 PM  

  • Lisa, thanks for visiting my blog and for commenting! I appreciate your kind words!!
    Thanks for sharing your blog, of course I want to visit! I look forward to reading all about your journey! :D

    By Blogger Lori, at 4:21 PM  

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